There’s a decision sitting in front of you. Not a huge one, on paper. A price to raise, a service to drop, a person to finally say no to. It’s not even the first one this year that’s stalled this way. You’ve turned it over enough times that you could recite the pros and cons in your sleep, and still nothing moves. You’ve tried to explain it to someone. A friend, a partner, maybe even typed some version of it into a search bar late one night. But where do you even start to look for help when you’re not sure what it is that you need to get unstuck?
This isn’t about competence. You can be sharp, capable, good at what you do, and still not be able to see your own business clearly. Because nobody can see their own blind spots from inside their own thinking.
Help tends to come wearing one hat or the other. Business support that works with the decision. Emotional support that works with what’s underneath it. Both real, both useful. But the two rarely get to sit in the same room together, because that’s not usually how help gets organised. And that’s what makes it so difficult to search for what you need in those messy middle moments, because you’re looking for something that doesn’t quite have a name in the way help is usually offered.
A client I worked with recently had a page full of objections to a decision that had been sitting, unmoved, for months. When she sent me her Focus Day prep pack back, it was really clear that there was a hell of a lot of noise about shoulds, can’ts and ought’s that were sitting packed around those objections. Those mind monkeys were rampant!
The day was structured to make sure she felt met as the whole person in the room, not just the business owner with a problem to solve. As we worked through the building blocks of the day, she was able to look at those objections properly for the first time, and actually cross them off the list as not being true, founded or factual. The decision hadn’t changed. What changed was being able to see it clearly enough to finally choose.
You don’t need to find the words for what you need before you ask. That’s what a conversation with me is actually for.
